Steven J. Hanley - The Psychogenealogist April 22, 2018 Family History, Genealogy A War Ends and a Mother Dies as a Life Begins: Thomas Bernard Costlow (1865-1943) Steven J. Hanley - The Psychogenealogist April 22, 2018 Family History, Genealogy "Uncle Tom Costlow" was born in turbulent times. He was born the day before the U.S. Civil War ended. His mother died two weeks later. This is his story.